We are having our first experience with bullies and it makes this mommy very sad! I didn't think we would have to deal with this yet, especially at preschool! Anyway, Adrianna has been coming home for the past few weeks a little sad. She has been telling me that some boys in her class are hitting her, kicking her, telling her they don't like her, and being very mean. I kept asking her what she was saying to them and she keeps telling me that she is being nice.
I picked her up today and she was very somber. She was even trying to hide from me while I was waiting for her. She was very mean to Eliza on the way out and she was also having a very bad attitude. Surprisingly I stopped to think before I got on her case and wondered if the boys were picking on her again today.
Well, come to find out they were. This really bothers me! I don't want my child to ever have to feel what it feels like to be made fun of. I don't want to imagine her standing there wondering why she is being picked on. I don't want her to ever question the beautiful person God is molding her to be. But I know it's inevitable. I know she will have to deal with the cruel people in this world. It doesn't mean I want her to! I just don't know what to tell her besides reassuring her that God loves her, that He made her beautiful and special, that there will be mean people in this world but we still have to be kind to them.
Believe me, this mama bear will come out! She has to learn how to deal with these things I know!
She did look at me and say "Mom, the bible says, Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good. I was nice to them and See, I did what the bible says!". I of course started crying and she asked me why. I told her that it makes me sad when people make fun of you but that I was proud of her for doing the right thing. Jesus was definitely honored today by what she said.
So how do you deal with bullies? I will be doing some reading tonight about that! If you have any experience with them or things that worked, please let me know!
I did mention it to her teacher and she is going to keep her eye out for it.
I'm not sure I'm ready to deal with these grown-up issues with my 5 year old!
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Poor Adrianna. :( We had some issues with Micah being teased on the bus. It was a kindergartener who thought he was hot stuff to pick on the Young 5 kids. Anyway, I ended up talking to the teacher of the bully and she had a talk with the boy. Things were better for a couple of months, but then it started up again. I called the teacher again and asked her if she could give the boy a reminder about using kind words. She did and things have been good again. My initial thought is that Adrianna's teacher needs to be more aggressive. Rather than just keep an eye out for the bullying, I think there is enough history that she could actually say something to the boys. Particularly because it's PHYSICAL!! That blows me away. I hope things start to get better for Adrianna.
It's nice to know that all of our teaching is being remembered! I got picked on so badly in school...hopefully, it won't be that bad. We'll keep praying about it and working with her...
Such a tender heart, and a very sweet girl.. just like you, Becky!
I'll continue to pray for her and you during this time of transition into school.. You and Shawn are doing a great job!
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