Misunderstood

Does anyone often feel misunderstood? I have had many instances these past few weeks where people have assumed things about me that are not true. Frankly, it hurts and I don't know quite what to do about it. Am I way off in the way I see myself or the way the Lord sees me?
I think part of it is that people make assumptions without actually talking to the person first. They think they know what you're thinking or feeling and then base their feelings and reactions off of that. I have no clue how anyone can know what someone else is thinking without talking to the them first.
The verse in Philippians 4 comes to mind a lot. I really try to remember this when I have to talk with someone.
"Finally brothers, whatever is TRUE, whatever is NOBLE, whatever is RIGHT, whatever is PURE, whatever is LOVELY, whatever is admirable-- if anything is excellent or praiseworthy---think about such things."
I do know that if you have a relationship with someone, you know their heart. You know that if they do say something that rubs you the wrong way, that might hurt you, you would first go to them. Because deep down you would know that how it came across might not be what they wanted to convey. GO TO THE SOURCE!
One of the things I can't stand about other christians is that they say one thing to your face and then behind your back they say another. Where is the integrity and truth in that?

I admit, I am feeling very vulnerable right now. I don't even know what to say to people because I feel like they are going to take it wrong anyway. They are going to come up with their own interpretation of it and not find the truth. I don't have ulterior motives when I talk to people. I am who you see. There is nothing hidden!
No one is perfect. No one ALWAYS reacts the way they should. Believe me, being a parent really opens my eyes to the MANY times I mess up every day.
I have to believe that the Lord uses us anyway. That He loves us the way we are. That He is constantly molding us into His image if we let Him.

I wish I could be completely unselfish. I wish I could give more of my time and energy to everyone else. I wish the whole world could be like that. But, because of sin, it's not. We have to try and live our life through the Holy Spirit. We have to be open to where He wants to lead us.

Sometimes I wish I lived on a desert island. Then there would be no hurt or confrontation or assumptions. But that is not possible so we have to learn how to deal with it in a loving,
God-honoring way.

My heart is heavy but I pray that through this we will see God working in mighty ways.